You’re minding your own business, scrolling through Instagram…when it happens.
You see a picture of someone with an amazing body and just wish it could be that easy for you, too. I mean…you workout, you eat OK…why don’t you look like that yet?
Maybe you get that gut punch looking at endless pictures of happy couples moving into a new house with their beautiful family and think “Must be nice...I’ve been living in the same apartment for 5 years now and am nowhere near being able to afford that.”
Maybe it’s a picture confirming your ex is dating someone new…which makes you want to simultaneously burst into tears and punch something because why should they get to find happiness before you do?!
I could list hundreds of examples that can get us all stuck and wrapped up in the comparison trap…and they all feel equally as shitty as the next.
But there are ways to make those feelings of jealousy and comparison actually work in your favor instead of sending you down the rabbit hole of “poor me.”
Let’s get into it!
1) Ask yourself: What are my top priorities right now?
I used to get SO TRIGGERED when I’d see a really toned, fit looking woman in magazines and more recently on Instagram. It felt unfair, it felt impossible, and it made me feel like I wasn’t doing enough.
Fast forward to now, I 100% appreciate the hard work it takes for people to achieve that aesthetic, but personally, it’s just not how I measure being “fit enough” anymore.
I find so much more satisfaction in keeping exercise fun, lifting weights, keeping my nutrition 80/20 and eating donuts and drinking wine when I feel like it. So now when I see someone on IG rocking a six-pack I think “Wow…good for her!” as I eat another Oreo in food freedom bliss!
The bottom line is this- You have to pick and choose your battles. Everything can’t be a priority. If something is triggering you to feel jealous or less than, ask yourself “is this actually something I want to work towards right now and is it something I’m willing to start prioritizing?” If not, acknowledge that, give that person props for their accomplishments, and move on. If yes, read tip #2.
2) Remember that if someone else can do it, you can, too!
It’s SO EASY to let jealousy creep up on you and think “must be nice…” and when it does, start reminding yourself “This is an example of what’s possible. Because if it’s possible for them, it’s possible for me- am I willing to do what it takes to get there?”
Because here’s the secret- there’s nothing special about that 6-figure online entrepreneur.
There’s nothing special about that Instagram model with the bagin’ body.
There’s nothing special about the girl at work who always has the best clothes and always looks put together.
The biggest difference between people who achieve big things and those who don’t? Those who achieve big things get busy DOING instead of staying stuck in comparison.
So let someone else’s body, income, job, relationship, car, family, kids, vacations, or lifestyle inspire you, then get hyper-focused on what you have to do to start making moves!
And if it’s nutrition, fitness or mindset hacks you need help with, I’m your girl and I can help you make sure the moves you’re making are the right moves to get you heading towards those goals.